Today is Julian’s 9th Angelversary. It’s also Super Tuesday here in the United States. I never imagined I’d be inspired by politics as I write a blog post about grief and loss, but here we are.
I didn’t consider myself “political” until just a few years ago. It is one of the many ways I’ve changed as a direct result of experiencing the loss of a child. My family and I really get it that life is too short to be complacent. Life is too short not to pay attention to the world around me. Life is too short not to fight for what I believe in. Sometimes, life is too short… period.
So I get involved. I do my research, and I develop my opinions. I’m vocal about my opinions, and I participate in good-faith debates when I have the opportunity. I recognize that my voice MATTERS.
And even if things don’t go the way I hoped they would, at least I know I was in the arena. I fought the good fight. I made a DIFFERENCE.
It is no secret that I was, and still am, an enthusiastic supporter of Mayor Pete Buttigieg. When he announced he was suspending his 2020 presidential campaign on Sunday night, I was heartbroken. I watched his speech with tears in my eyes and a sob in my throat. I was particularly touched when he said:
“Politics at its worst is ugly. But at its best, politics can lift us up. It is not just policymaking. It is moral. It is soulcraft.”
I thought about that word, “soulcraft.” That, I believe, is why we’re here on the planet in the first place. To craft our soul. We are here for our soul to learn and grow.
And that doesn’t happen without loss.
So, whether we are suffering from the end of a political campaign or the end of a life, these losses shape our human experience. They make us who we are meant to be.
Loss is soulcraft.
I’m nine years into my journey as a bereaved mother. I wish I had been given a different path. I wish there was a different outline for me to follow in this Earth School of soulcraft. But I accept it. I appreciate every opportunity for my soul to learn and grow. I wouldn’t be who I am today if not for the glorious blessings AND the one devastating tragedy that my life has brought me so far.
So… to all the Super Tuesday winners and losers, to all the bereaved parents, to those who seek the fullest expression of life, and to everyone who goes ALL IN…
Congratulations on your successful soulcraft.
March 3, 2020 at 10:17 pm
Emily, this is deeply honest and beautifully written. Thank you.
Tense and Lynn's
July 4, 2020 at 7:42 am
I recently lost my five year old daughter, and I love your expression of soulcraft. I’m sorry any parent has to go through this.
July 4, 2020 at 8:25 am
Oh I’m so sorry to hear about your daughter. You have joined a club that none of us wants to be a part of. ❤️
Tense and Lynn's
July 4, 2020 at 8:28 am
No, I never dreamed of joining this club. When I looked at the number of parents who’d lost children online, it broke my heart. My mother lost my brother’s twin. My grandmother gave birth too early to a son who died. My great grandmother lost a son during World War II.