They say that the first year after you lose a loved one is the hardest. It’s the holidays, I hear, that are the most painful times of the year. Birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays with special meaning — like Mother’s Day — are particularly tough. And here it comes, just couple days away.
I’m sure many people are wondering how Mother’s Day will be for me this year. I’m wondering, too. I have such happy memories from past Mother’s Days. A few years ago we started a tradition of going to the Minneapolis Sculpture Garden to enjoy the beautiful art and gardens, and take photos together. We plan to keep up the tradition this year, too. I’m looking forward to it.
Before Mother’s Day 2011 arrives, I wanted to take time to reflect on the past 3 years that I had with both of my sons. I’ve been thinking a lot about the past few years, and how thankful I am that we took the time to capture the special day in photos. I also really appreciate my husband’s wonderful photography skills:
Mother’s Day 2008
Mother’s Day 2009
Mother’s Day 2010
I’m sure Sunday will have its sad moments. But I know it won’t be *full* of sadness. I’m committed to enjoying a day that is not just focused on me, but also on the two boys who taught me what being a mother really means.
Julian won’t be in our photos this year, but I know he will be with us. And I’m looking forward to that.
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Leanne (Trebilcock) Avila
May 6, 2011 at 8:44 am
Beautiful photos of your beautiful sons, Emily — thank you for sharing them with us! Enjoy your time at the garden.
May 6, 2011 at 6:03 pm
There’s so much joy and love in these photos! You’re such an awesome mom, Em. Wishing you a joyful Mother’s Day!
May 8, 2011 at 4:54 pm
Emily, I am so impressed with the decision you’ve made to learn about what your “new normal” will be. While I know that the new mindset will be a challenge, challenges can be good things…they can allow you to grow. I definitely am thinking about you a LOT today, and about how unbelievable it is that a person’s life can change 100% in a matter of seconds.I am so happy for you that you have Oscar to hold in your arms, and that Julian’s getting entertained by watching you. If you listen really closely, you’ll hear his commentary. A boy that boisterous does not sit quietly for long and just “watch.” I am really impressed with your husband’s photography. Hugs to you and the rest of the family. And thank you for creating a site for people to learn more about you, and to heal with you. So many moms (or parents in general) who’ve experienced what you’re going through, probably feel like they have to go through it alone. I hope knowledge about your blog spreads like wildfire 🙂
Darlene J Lund and Tom
May 8, 2011 at 7:33 pm
Emily, what a wonderful way to spend a day, just walking and talking and sharing time together. It is a time to honor Julian as he is with you always and he knows you are at the garden…and among the spoon that is so wonderful…Minnesota is blessed to have a wonderful place in the city for people to come together in friendship, love and special days. Love you.
May 8, 2011 at 10:11 pm
I love how the “new normal” is also about keeping things normal for Oscar. The new photos of the two of you are simply amazing. I’m so impressed at how you are able to find the joy in what must be such a difficult day. A huge happy mother’s day to you Emily, you are crazy strong.